La Libertà Non Sta Nello Scegliere Tra Bianco E Nero, Ma Nel Sottrarsi A Questa Scelta Prescritta. (Theodor W.Adorno)
giovedì 9 febbraio 2012
Beatitudini - Christian Raimo (2007)
martedì 7 febbraio 2012
I tecnici di cui abbiamo bisogno - Paolo Cacciari
lunedì 6 febbraio 2012
Gatto Tigrato e Miss Rondinella - Jorge Amado
a volte capitano dei libri che ti stupisci, non lo hai letto da bambino,
non lo hai letto da grande, non lo leggerai mai.
ma questo cercalo e leggilo, almeno due volte, per non dimenticarlo.
non te ne pentirai, promesso.
se ti lascia indifferente, forse sei già morto, cerca il numero di un'agenzia
di onoranze funebri, provvederanno a tutto loro - franz
...Gatto Tigrato e Miss Rondinella è più di
un libro per bambini.
E’ una metafora della vita, un inno alla diversità e all’amore in tutte le
sue forme.
Lo consiglio vivamente sia come lettura per i bambini, che lo troveranno
divertente e un po’ strano.
Ma, soprattutto, come piccolo manuale per gli adulti…giusto per ricordare, ogni
tanto, che chi additiamo come diverso, in fondo, ci somiglia tanto.
sabato 4 febbraio 2012
i cinque più grandi rimpianti della vita
1 - avrei voluto avere il coraggio di vivere la vita che volevo, non quella che gli altri si aspettavano da me
2 - avrei voluto non (dover) lavorare così tanto
3 - avrei voluto avere il coraggio di esprimere i miei sentimenti
4 - avrei voluto stare più in contatto con i miei amici
5 - avrei voluto essere più felice
(scusate la traduzione - franz)
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
da qui
giovedì 2 febbraio 2012
Alain e i Rom - Emmanuel Guibert, Alain Keler, Frédéric Lemercier
ricordo di Wislawa Szymborska
in un appartamento vuoto?
Arrampicarsi sulle pareti.
Strofinarsi tra i mobili.
Qui niente sembra cambiato,
eppure tutto è mutato.
Niente sembra spostato,
eppure tutto è fuori posto.
E la sera la lampada non brilla più.
Si sentono passi sulle scale,
ma non sono quelli.
Anche la mano che mette il pesce nel piattino
non è quella di prima.
Qualcosa qui non comincia
alla sua solita ora.
Qualcosa qui non accade
come dovrebbe.
Qui c'era qualcuno, c'era,
e poi d'un tratto è scomparso,
e si ostina a non esserci.
In ogni armadio si è guardato.
Sui ripiani è corso.
Sotto il tappeto si è controllato.
Si è perfino infranto il divieto
di sparpagliare le carte.
Cos'altro si può fare.
Aspettare e dormire.
Che provi solo a tornare,
che si faccia vedere.
Imparerà allora
che con un gatto così non si fa.
Gli si andrà incontro
come se proprio non se ne avesse voglia,
pian pianino,
su zampe molto offese.
E all'inizio niente salti né squittii.
mercoledì 1 febbraio 2012
zingari nel pallone
Tanti personaggi famosi hanno queste origini; nel mondo del calcio un nome su tutti: è il campione del Mondo e capitano della nazionale italiana Andrea Pirlo che per la precisione è un sinto italiano ma c'è anche Ibrahimović, rom khoraxay con genitori croato-bosniaci trasferiti in svezia negli anni '70 e che origini credete abbiano anche ad esempio Mihajlović e Savicević? E Cantona, Quaresma e González?
Insomma, finchè segnano e ti fan vincere coppe e scudetti va tutto bene ma se son dei poveracci meglio dargli la caccia ed il tutto con la scandalosa complicità dei mass-media.